What a cowardly way to deal with suicide and dance around a topic that claims the lives of over a million people a year worldwide. I have read your blogs for years. You are as useless as all other metaphysical teachings such as A Course in Miracles, Eckhard Tolle, Unity Church, any and all who teach spiritual philosophies and metaphysics.
I can’t speak for any of those people or groups. I’m not a spiritual or metaphysical person. If something isn’t grounded in literal reality, I don’t pay it any mind. But I have experienced frequent suicidal ideations for the past 10 years of my 23 year long life. When I’m thinking of killing myself and someone tries to help me by saying they’re “so sorry I’m going through that” or “please don’t do it you’ll regret it when it’s already too late”, my attention is immediately drawn to the fact that my life must be full of intense suffering since even this person sees it. And what’s my solution to this intense suffering? Killing myself! So these well-intentioned desires to help me (desires for control) can actually lead me right back to the suicidal ideations. At least in my experience, suicidal ideations are a very sticky situation where even the slightest desire for control can have negative consequences. No matter how much someone wants to “fix” a tendency for suicidal ideations, it is outside of our grasp for control over literal reality. I have found the most effective approach to be presence—either with yourself or with someone who is suffering. And presence requires accepting that desire to help and letting go of the urge to act on it. When I sit with that strong desire to help and use it as a slow, steady fuel in returning to the present moment, I can touch base with peace again in moments of intense suicidal suffering. And when I touch base with peace, it’s like my brain can take a deep breath and the grasp those suicidal ideations had over me loosens a little bit more.
Even with such an approach as you describe, you will always and still be a risk for suicide because you have yet to solve the underlying trauma and unmet needs that are driving you towards suicide. So everything you say in the end is pointless. Suicidality is not a contagion or disease. You don't "catch the suicide disease." Following a blog like this or looking too anyone in the spiritual or metaphysical field will always put you at an even far greater risk for suicide. Why? because the metaphysical community which Budhism is a part of is a narcisstic community. They do not wish you well and only want to toxify and tramatize you further by warning you of the dangers that lurk in the afterlife once you commit suicide. They have no solutions. They have tons of useless practices and meditations, but no solutions to healig the toxic suicidal mind. There are no teachers on Earth at this time that can help or heal the person suffering from suicidal ideation and suffering. That is the cold hard truth, but at least it is The Truth and not some fairy tale metaphysical story of how "all is well." ALL IS NOT WELL and has never been for millions of people who currently occupy the Earth plane.
Also note the short brevity of this article written by Christopher Titmuss. In other articles his blogs continue into the thousands of words. Yet when it comes to the topic of suicide, he can barely come up with five hundred words to discuss a topic that is claiming the lives of a milion people around the world each year. Fifty thousand kill themselves each year just in the U.S. alone. As I said, this man has no answers for you, me, or anyone on a suicidal path.
What a cowardly way to deal with suicide and dance around a topic that claims the lives of over a million people a year worldwide. I have read your blogs for years. You are as useless as all other metaphysical teachings such as A Course in Miracles, Eckhard Tolle, Unity Church, any and all who teach spiritual philosophies and metaphysics.
I can’t speak for any of those people or groups. I’m not a spiritual or metaphysical person. If something isn’t grounded in literal reality, I don’t pay it any mind. But I have experienced frequent suicidal ideations for the past 10 years of my 23 year long life. When I’m thinking of killing myself and someone tries to help me by saying they’re “so sorry I’m going through that” or “please don’t do it you’ll regret it when it’s already too late”, my attention is immediately drawn to the fact that my life must be full of intense suffering since even this person sees it. And what’s my solution to this intense suffering? Killing myself! So these well-intentioned desires to help me (desires for control) can actually lead me right back to the suicidal ideations. At least in my experience, suicidal ideations are a very sticky situation where even the slightest desire for control can have negative consequences. No matter how much someone wants to “fix” a tendency for suicidal ideations, it is outside of our grasp for control over literal reality. I have found the most effective approach to be presence—either with yourself or with someone who is suffering. And presence requires accepting that desire to help and letting go of the urge to act on it. When I sit with that strong desire to help and use it as a slow, steady fuel in returning to the present moment, I can touch base with peace again in moments of intense suicidal suffering. And when I touch base with peace, it’s like my brain can take a deep breath and the grasp those suicidal ideations had over me loosens a little bit more.
Even with such an approach as you describe, you will always and still be a risk for suicide because you have yet to solve the underlying trauma and unmet needs that are driving you towards suicide. So everything you say in the end is pointless. Suicidality is not a contagion or disease. You don't "catch the suicide disease." Following a blog like this or looking too anyone in the spiritual or metaphysical field will always put you at an even far greater risk for suicide. Why? because the metaphysical community which Budhism is a part of is a narcisstic community. They do not wish you well and only want to toxify and tramatize you further by warning you of the dangers that lurk in the afterlife once you commit suicide. They have no solutions. They have tons of useless practices and meditations, but no solutions to healig the toxic suicidal mind. There are no teachers on Earth at this time that can help or heal the person suffering from suicidal ideation and suffering. That is the cold hard truth, but at least it is The Truth and not some fairy tale metaphysical story of how "all is well." ALL IS NOT WELL and has never been for millions of people who currently occupy the Earth plane.
Also note the short brevity of this article written by Christopher Titmuss. In other articles his blogs continue into the thousands of words. Yet when it comes to the topic of suicide, he can barely come up with five hundred words to discuss a topic that is claiming the lives of a milion people around the world each year. Fifty thousand kill themselves each year just in the U.S. alone. As I said, this man has no answers for you, me, or anyone on a suicidal path.